Reach out

Friends aren't helping friends out when they need them. 

It's just an observation I've made over the past few months. I can't really get my head around it... Why wouldn't you help your friend if their hurting? If they fell over and twisted their ankle, would you leave them on the floor? If they were drowning, would you not try to rescue them? If they were getting beat up, would you not try to intervene?
Why should emotional pain be taken any less seriously than physical pain?

A friend told me and another friend that she attempted to commit suicide last year. Casually, just added it into conversation. And do you want to know what my other friend did? 

He laughed.

And then, you see celebrities like Lily Allen, losing their babies, and people making jokes about it. What sort of evil human being does that? You may not know her personally, but she just lost her baby for god's sake. Show a little a respect.

You see countless tweets on twitter:

"Mega depressed for no reason. feel like everyone on twitter is just ignoring me.."

"I feel so empty right now.."

"Hate my mom. Hate my life! Wish i would just die now. Save me and everyone else the trouble."

No replies. Not one. 


If they tweeted about a film, or music, or even Peanut butter, they would have got a reply. They would have probably got a conversation.


But this is their life, this is their "selfish tweets" where they are just wanting "attention".


Well you know what? They are not selfish for wanting to be happy. They are not wanting attention. They are wanting to get rid of this mood that has been depressing them for god knows how long and, as a friend, or a follower, or a human being, it is your duty to help them out. 


I was really badly depressed for the past two Fridays (the mood broken only by a trip out with Halle and Ross) and I would tweet about it. Or at least, try to. 


I kept deleting words, letters, sentences... none of it made sense. Why was I feeling so bad? I don't know. Why don't you get help? I don't know. Why don't you just send that damn tweet and stop being such a wimp? That I do know.


I didn't want to be labelled as an emo.


I know the stigma... I'm not blind to society's evil nature. Their cruel, mistimed jokes. Their praying on the weak. Their praising the strong. I know of them. I don't want to feed their horrific obsession with gossip.


This blog is like my diary. You know that I will hide parts of my life from you, but I would never lie to you. I will try to tell you as much secrets as I can handle typing and you can handle knowing. But It's hard sometimes. Especially when it feels like no-one is listening.


307 followers. I think I got one reply.


And that's why, we all hide our emotions behind a smile. No-one cares.


Or at least, It feels that way.


So please. Please. If you see someone that seems to be in a bad mood, ask them what's wrong. Who knows, You might be able to make them feel better.


Restore my faith in humanity.

You are not alone.

I know a lot of people who have problems.


Who doesn't? We all have problems, only, some hide them better than others...


Should we hide our problems? Not at all. Our flaws, heartbreaks and problems are as much a part of us as our skills, passions and successes. You cannot have a solution without a problem, or a failure without a success. Yet our society doesn't like problems. We can't throw our hands up and say "I'm depressed" or "I'm anorexic" without someone assuming that you're weak or you're just doing it for attention.


Truth is, they're the brave ones. Admittedly, yes, 2% of all of those people who admit to their problems are just in it for the attention. Should we refuses to help the other 98% of those who do have problems just in case they are  merely attention seeking? No. If someone tells you that they are self harming, don't mutter "emo" or "They're only doing it for the attention" under your breath but treat it like it is, a condition that should be treated before it escalates into something much more serious. If someone tells you that they are anorexic, don't just stand there and tell them to wise up... Get. Them. Some. Help.


I just can't stress this enough. People are so self-obsessed these days, so selfish, that they won't even help their friends when they need them most. Well, they need you. You should listen to them. Sometimes it's just a stupid little fight with their boyfriend, or an argument with their Mum, other times, it's a drug addiction or suicidal thoughts. Just think, how guilty would you feel if something happened to them and you knew that you could have prevented it....


Doesn't bare thinking about, does it?


Who hasn't been in a roomful of people and felt all alone? Who hasn't smiled when all you want to do is break down and cry? Who hasn't been "involved" in a conversation when you haven't said a word? No-one. Everyone has smiled when they want to breakdown and cry. Everyone has been involved in a conversation where they have just sat there and listen. Everyone has been in a roomful of people and felt all alone. But...


You are not alone.


You may feel like you are the only one suffering in the world, you may feel like you are the only one who doesn't have a purpose, you may feel like you have no voice, no bravery, no talent but that's not true. Please don't let that voice in your head tell you otherwise.
There are over seven billion people in the world. That's seven billion faces that you will never meet. Seven billion voices that you will never hear. Seven billion problems that will not exist. To you. Those seven billion problems are very much there. Their pain is still very much real, despite you not being able to feel, hear or see it. You can't help anyone, but you can help yourselves. And you can help your loved ones.


As said, everyone has problems. Some people are just better at hiding them than others.


So, If you can help someone with a problem, please do. No matter how small, or insignificant it is, you are helping someone. And that's one of the most fulfilling things that you can do with your life.


Just remember... whoever you are, wherever you are, whatever your problems may be...


You are not alone.